January is a month when people are often attempting to re-write (at least part of) their life story: resolutions to change habits, a chance to re-boot and try new attitudes and approaches to life. In the past week, I have sat with many of my clients expressing their wish that 2018 is different, that their life will be different, that they can be different.
But how DO we change when there is so much momentum behind continuing to act in the ways we always have done?
One of my favourite poems is Portia Nelson’s “Autobiography in Five Chapters”. For me, this encapsulates the journey from living unconsciously to one with more awareness. And in the view of Gestalt psychotherapy, the type of therapy I work with, awareness is the vital ingredient for change and well-being.
As I begin writing this morning, I have no idea as to what will appear - well, I guess that isn’t entirely true…but it would be fair to say that this is not a post that I have planned to my normal levels. A well planned blog post this morning falls secondary to just sitting and writing: for this is one of my intentions for 2018 - to get back to my blogging.
I logged on to my website a few days ago and realised it has been a full year since posting last. I knew it had been a while, but I was shocked. When I posted last January I had no idea it would be 12 months until I got around to doing it again. The cynic in me could question “what is different now”? Yet I know that blogging is important to me, to the way I work, to the way I understand my process - professionally, spiritually and personally. I don’t consider myself a creative person - blogging and my website is one way in which I CAN express myself.
What does 2017 have in store for you? New Year is a common time to be looking at our lives, taking stock, and considering making change. We set intentions, make resolutions and plan goals. When I get client enquries in January I notice that this is the time when people seem most resolute about what they want - a fresh year, a fresh start. Or perhaps its more true to say that people are resolute about what they don't want, and they come to therapy to explore change and what can be done.
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