My private practice is a hybrid of online (via Zoom) and face to face (at the Wilbury Clinic, Hove). I tend to operate my supervision work and my spiritual / psychological integration offering online on Mondays. Face to face psychotherapy sessions are in Hove, ordinarily Tuesdays.
My current fee for meeting online is £70 for a 50 minute session whether you seek therapy, supervision, or spiritual integration. For psychotherapy services face to face (at the Wilbury Clinic, Hove) the fee is £80.
Your first contact with me will probably be through email. If I have availability, I will suggest we meet for an initial series of 3 sessions.
I used to offer one initial session, but I have found it helpful to extend this over aa few weeks to really help us decide if we are a good fit. The sessions will give me a chance to ask about the situation you find yourself in and why you are looking for support. It is also an opportunity for you to decide if you feel comfortable with me, as well as with the way I work.
If you do decide to continue, we would finalise the agreed time to meet on a weekly basis – each session is 50 minutes in length. I will send you a written contract. What we contract to work on is always under your control – I have no agenda and will follow what forms at the forefront of your mind: in this sense, therapy is always a collaborative journey.
How long that journey is depends on what you bring – there is no prescribed time frame; you and I will frequently review your progress and what you are getting from the work. I do ask for a one month period of notice so that we can pay respect to our relationship and I can re-arrange my client load.
Probably the most important qualities you can bring to therapy are curiosity and kindness to your self.
Gestalt is a highly practical integrative therapeutic approach that views human nature in a positive way. It is considered an ‘existential-phenomenological’ approach.
- It is existential in that it focuses on the nature of what it is to be human, and the inherent joys and suffering that brings
- It is phenomenological in that it helps people stand aside from their usual way of thinking and bring awareness to what is actually being perceived rather than focusing on residues from the past.
Essentially, Gestalt practitioners help people to focus on their immediate thoughts, feelings and behaviour and to better understand the way they relate to others. Using this framework, I will help you increase your awareness opening up new perspectives, seeing the bigger picture and starting to effect changes.
The founder of Gestalt psychotherapy, Fritz Perls, brought much of his approach over from Zen Buddhism – and people will recognise the similar ‘here and now’ approach offered by Gestalt and mindfulness practices. You don’t have to be a Buddhist or on a spiritual path to benefit from the 2500 year old teachings and practices: in fact the abhidharma is often considered the world’s oldest system of psychology, and far from being a religion as commonly understood. Buddhist ideas are therefore useful to non-Buddhists and non-meditators. They help us appreciate that pain is inherent to a human life (we – and our loved ones – all age, get sick and eventually die); yet we CAN work with our attitude to that pain. With acceptance – rather than resistance- we can reduce our suffering. The Buddhist teachings point to the causes of the suffering and how that gets created and experienced in our mind and in our body.
Much of the time these two terms are used inter-changeably. I find it helpful to make the distinction in a number of ways:
- Counselling tends to address a specific issue (e.g. bereavement) whilst psychotherapy is longer term and takes a deeper look at what makes us the person we are.
- Another way of expressing this is that psychotherapy looks to evoke ‘second order change’ – so rather than treating the symptom (e.g. anxiety), it cuts to the root
- Psychotherapists are required to do longer training (4 years at Master’s level): look for a practitioner’s registration to the UKCP to be sure.
Most of us live busy, multi-tasking lives. Most clients I come to work with give over a lot of time to thinking about the past, and thinking about the future. As we become lost in our efforts to juggle work, home, finances, and other conflicting demands we lose awareness of the present moment. If we are not fully present in our lives, we can fail to notice the good things about our lives, fail to hear what our bodies are telling us and beat ourselves up with self-criticism. Developing mindfulness through a practice of meditation helps us see clearly whatever is happening in our lives. It allows us to recognise and step away from habitual, often unconscious emotional and physiological reactions to everyday events. Mindfulness is not a means of eliminating life’s difficulties, but it can help provide a space that allows us to respond to them more wisely, in a calmer manner that benefits our head, heart and body.
Both meditation and psychotherapy are powerful as standalone methods. Meditation is commonly used by people on a spiritual path, helping people to understand what it means to be human. We might view psychotherapy as the process that unblocks the ability to be this human. In my experience, personally and professionally, meditation and psychotherapy can be mutually benefitting and complimentary practices:
- developing mindfulness through meditation can help bring clarity to what is being experienced in the moment; similarly, it brings awareness to a habitual pattern we might have developed to deal with distress and discomfort. A client can bring this awareness to therapy sessions to explore the causes and develop understanding
- getting more experienced with meditation allows the mind to settle and the speed of thoughts to calm down (a bit like letting a bottle of muddy water settle in to dirt and water). With the clarity that develops, we get in touch with what is going on underneath – maybe we become aware of a tightness and tension in the body and the felt sense and meaning comes forth to us. We can take that experience to therapy for further exploration.
- attending therapy helps a client explore and unpack the history of their life. This may bring up a lot of material that needs to be assimilated and digested, and that can take time. Sitting in meditation and giving emotions space is a great way to facilitate that ‘composting’. The ancient Eastern wisdom traditions believe mediation to be the path of making friends with oneself; the ultimate kind act.
It is important to point out that meditation may not be suitable to use with all mental health issues (for example extreme anxiety), but I can help guide you on the benefits and pitfalls. I often write about the integration of meditation and psychotherapy on my blog, so check it out!
It is not uncommon for therapy work to uncover deep issues and cause some discomfort. People have sometimes used the analogy of taking off a sticking plaster to reveal a deep wound – whilst raw and painful, airing the wound will lead to better healing in the long term. I am highly experienced in providing a safe and containing space; and I am committed to staying alongside you through periods where you feel lost or stuck. I will encourage you to always share difficulties with the process and any thoughts you might have about leaving.